It’s difficult when you’re an NHS midwife

How do you practice self-care?

We’re often too busy looking after other’s needs. That’s the job.  But the powers that be don’t make it easy for us. As we know, it’s been unusually hot in London over the last few days. But we have no air conditioning in our not-at-all-purpose-built, south-facing, antenatal clinic building. And our strictly monitored uniform policy (100% polyester) doesn’t help. We did get a free ice cream yesterday, so that was a sweet gesture. We’re hard-core, and if we get dehydrated, we waste less time on bladder care! Simples!

I wrote a post about the difficulties of the job when our bosses are facing considerable pressure to save money. It’s pernicious. It’s constantly there, lurking on everyone’s brain, destroying peace of mind, infecting dreams, malingering malevolently at the back of our consciousness. We need to be creatively super-human.  We get told we need to be more resilient. There are posters where we eat, telling us to take 5 minutes to tend to ourselves. But our next woman is waiting, waiting to unburden herself on us, because nobody told her how tough pregnancy was gonna be, how much she’d have to give up, how much pain she’d be expected to endure. We give it our all, our body and soul. And then we leave. Broken and unthanked. Convinced we failed.

So yeah, self care… easier said than done.

@wes streeting, if you’re truly listening, let’s talk.

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2 responses to “It’s difficult when you’re an NHS midwife”

  1. ybonavero avatar
    ybonavero

    Hi – this is Wes Streeting.

    Of course I’m listening.

    I’d be delighted to talk. Any time.

    Before I call you, can you just remind me why you absolutely insisted on going through pregnancy three times, given “how tough pregnancy was gonna be, how much [you]’d have to give up, how much pain [you]’d be expected to endure”?

    I ca understand how, as a young midwife, you lacked personal experience of pregnancy the first time, and failed to appreciate its grim reality. But why then did you choose, under no pressure whatsoever, to repeat that tough, painful, apparently wholly negative experience twice?

    See you soon

    Wes

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    1. midwife.mother.me. avatar

      Dear Wes, your wife should have strong words with you, she endured it four times, and it would seem that you are questioning her sanity. It wasn’t fun, it wasn’t easy, but imagine if we all quit when things got a little tough? Some of us (but not you, apparently) are aware that no pain, no gain. Are you saying that we cannot complain just because we chose to do something crazy difficult? Are you saying we should tolerate the discomfort in silence because we asked for it? Because that’s the kind of drivel I’d expect from a right wing nut, not you, Wes.

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